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Tom Harris and Brian Mahieu

Tom Harris and Brian Mahieu have been engaged for nine years. Each wears a wedding ring. Each says they consider themselves married emotionally.

However, their opportunities to get legally married have been limited. Even though nearby Iowa has allowed same-sex marriage since 2009, Harris and Mahieu were afraid to drive north to get married.

"[We] realized pretty quick that that's nice, but when we come back to Missouri, nothing has changed," Harris said.